6/11/14

What if love is harder than we think? What if it is more than just long walks on the beach and candlelit dinners? What if we have been selling ourselves short on all of what love can be?

When I think of love, the first things that come to mind are happy couples, loving parents, and laughing friends. I imagine a sweet and silly and spontaneous love. One that sprouts up unexpectedly and grows rapidly. An experience of overwhelming emotion. Something to look forward to and strive toward.

That’s what love is.

But what about when it’s not?

What about when love is hard, when it is ugly, when it’s confusing? What about when it’s not all about the good moments full of laughter?

In 1 Corinthians 13, the Bible speaks about this love that is, yes, patient and kind, but a type of love which also keeps no record of wrong, always trusting and always hoping.

That is not an easy kind of love.

That is not the kind of love that falls out of you accidentally.

It’s hard and ugly and rough.

But that’s what real love is.

It’s not always beautiful moments by lakes or late night talks. What is real love if it is not going tomarriage counseling because you feel things slipping but you made a commitment?

Sometimes love is something you have to chose to fight for.

What is love if it is not wrapping your arms around your roommate as she sobs, her husband deployed on the other side of the world?

What is love if it is not calling your friend for the fourth time without her answering but not giving up because that friendship is worth the rejection, that person is worth fighting for despite the hurt you feel?

I’m not saying that sweet, exciting, fun love is wrong by any means. What I am saying is that love, when it’s done right, tends to hurt. It can be messy and complicated. When the joy and excitement fade away, we push through and we fight, all for the sake of love.

What if the love God is calling us to is one where we love one another enough to have those hard conversations, even when it means being silent when it’s not our time to talk, and speaking up when it is? What if we pushed our comfort aside and embraced discomfort for the sake of others?

Because I don’t think God ever intended for love to be easy.

In Luke, Jesus says that loving those who love us back does nothing, because everyone can do that. Anyone can do the crossword over breakfast or trade secret notes under the desk.

No, love is more than just that.

In John, Jesus says that people will know that we follow him by the way we love. He is not talking about that “can’t-eat, can’t-sleep, reach-for-the-stars, over-the-fenceWorld Series kind of love.” No he is talking about the hard love, the love that challenges you, that stretches you. The love that breaks your heart when you give it.

We are called to live lives where we sacrifice what we want in preference to those around us. Lives where we forgive every single time without holding any record of wrong, and we do it all for the sake of love.

Because that is what love is.

It’s hard, it’s messy, and it’s worth it.

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will you miss me when you’re gone?

i'll carry on

Will you think of all the what-ifs and imagine the could-have-beens? Will you wish the distance between us didn’t exist? Will you picture me and silently say a prayer to let our paths cross again in the future? Will you text me, write me, miss me? 

Will you find a girl back home and marry her? Will you fall deeper in love with her? Will you forget me? Will you forget an us ever existed? 

Will time erase us?

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The Thing About Long-Distance

Isabelle Cameron

Words by Isabelle Cameron

IF you look up ‘long-distance relationships (LDR)’ on Google you will be met with a great many self-help articles, guide blogs and forums that have the question: ‘How to make LDR work?’

It really is enough to scare anyone off. I mean, as if movies, TV shows and books aren’t scaring us off relationships generally already. The idea of LDR may as well be displayed to us drenched in blood with a big ‘BEWARE’ sticker slammed across it. It’s scary-failed-to-doom stuff.

I have been in two long-distance relationships. One was only for 6 months and the other is now at the year and half mark and still going strong. Therefore, I’m clearly an expert.

Seeing how I’m an expert, I thought I would share some pearls of wisdom re: the thing with LDR.

Don’t compare your relationship to your friends’

This is just a given. No…

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Making Long Distance Work

The Simple Truth Blog

…is hard. No doubt about that.

http://cubbiescorner.wordpress.com/2014/02/06/a-simple-love-letter/Cubbie’s Corner 

It’s about that time of year though. A lot of couples are leaving college to go back home for the summer, or preparing to go away to different colleges, many states away. And neither of them really know how to do the whole “long distance” thing without it fizzling away.

Well, take these 7 (1/2) tried-n-true tips from a gal who’s done it for almost more than a combined year ‘n a half:

Stop. Re-evaluate your relationship. Hopefully you’ve already done this, since you’ve both decided to keep the relationship going while you’re apart, but if you haven’t, this is the most important step to do when making the in-person-to-many-states-away step. Look back on what your relationship has been.

Has it made you a better person? Happier, healthier, fresher?

Has it helped you grow closer to your faith?

Has it made you more open to others?

Has…

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We Were Always Just That Close

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Brings me to tears every time I hear it. My heart is breaking at how much I miss you.

I miss being that close to you.

California King Bed- Rihanna

Chest to chest
Nose to nose
Palm to palm
We were always just that close
Wrist to wrist
Toe to toe
Lips that felt just like the inside of a rose
So, how come when I reach out my finger
It feels like more than distance between us

In this California king bed
We’re ten thousand miles apart
I’ve been California wishing on these stars
For your heart for me
My California king

Eye to eye
Cheek to cheek
Side by side
You were sleeping next to me
Arm in arm
Dusk to dawn
With the curtains drawn
And a little last night on these sheets
So, how come when I reach out my fingers
It seems like more than…

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